The tricky thing to being a never married single guy in your 30s is that you may think a woman who is actually in your age group is much older ...
I've wondered if there's as much of a stigma in the straight community, or if there'd be as much or more of a stigma if a 19 year old guy was dating a hot 38 year old woman. In a way, I can identify very closely with someone who is in their late teens or early 20s.
(I don't think I mentioned that my co-worker is a particularly young looking 38; if I were to cast him in a movie I'd probably go with Seth Meyers ( from SNL- so it could be jealousy since if I were to cast myself I'd probably go with Burl Ives : D .) Now otoh, I don't have the slightest problem looking at male strippers who aren't much if any older than 19 anymore than most straight guys would mind looking at female strippers that age, but somehow that's different because... If I was with someone who was college-aged, I wouldn't feel that we didn't share a similar set of experiences.
Most college-age women who are drugged and raped, are drugged and raped by their generational peers, frequently by fellow students.
What your sister endured was a horrible crime, but it wasn't part of a larger general pattern of older men slipping roofies into younger women's drinks. I've never been married, so parts of my life are in an arrested stage of development.
she's certainly cute and seems really nice, but I can't get over the age difference.
I'm not going to say anything to him or her about it because it's none of my business, but it majorly bothers me (two levels: he's still a professor and she's still a student even if the college doesn't have a dating ban [unless students are in the professor's class] and the fact that she's by some definitions a minor and he's closing in on middle age]).Though not conpletely unheard of, it does happen, but it is not a norm by any means. And it is non-of your business, but you'll probably be called upon to pick up the pieces when it falls apart. This is similar to my sister's situation and I'm pretty worried about it.She's 19 and apparently not just seeing, but sleeping with a 35 year old Scottish man that none of her family has ever met or knows anything about.I'm finding that as I get older, I have a much more difficult time estimating a woman's age.It's hard to conceptualize that a woman your age would have two teenage kids, or be driving a minivan.I'm curious to see what others think: if you had friends in this type of relationship, would you think "She's a BABY! My parents had an 18 year age difference (she was 16 and he was 34 when they married [and he was her high-school teacher]- this was rural Alabama in the early 1950s when that wasn't so scandalous) and the marriage lasted for 30 years. (It wasn't a happy union, it's just that its unhappiness got tenure.) How much of my parents' unhappiness was based in the age difference I don't know, but I can't shake the feeling that when a guy goes after a gal half-his-age, however else he may justify it the lust for firm young flesh is high on the list of REAL motivations (not to say that he can't be intellectually attracted as well). Maybe you would do well to adopt my motto: I don't care WHAT you do, as long as you don't do it to me. at a small Liberal Arts College in New England, I'll say this. On the other hand, this does seem a bit icky to me. Before I started dating men twenty years older than me, I dated men the same age as myself, and one much younger.