Military relationships seem to be overwhelmingly unequal.
This is from my own experience as a military kid and girlfriend.
My boyfriend is in the military, and he's not a bad person. He loves his job, and he aspires to be the best he can be for his soldiers. It makes me proud to watch him excel in something that he loves.
The guys that joined for all the wrong reasons are the guys that you want to stay away from.
So my suggestion whenever you date someone in the military, yes be aware they have seen shit or done shit in their life that you probably never will but get to know the person.
In all honesty it's just like dating in general you are going to find good and bad guys.
It just depends on what you are looking for and their personality.
While it's too bad it didn't work out (my fault, not his), I know now how I'm to be treated by a man and will look for someone like him when looking for a husband. I also have a friend who's married to a military guy who is a complete MORON, but he's a good husband and father.
And I know some military people who are just jerks.
It created a very difficult time in my life, but I am to this day so so so so grateful that I did not marry that man, as much as I loved him.