If you are wondering if your relationship is the real deal, it can be tough to tell when the relationship is moving too slowly, or if it's something more surface-level that'll soon fizzle out.
But being able to tell the difference between something fleeting and something long-lasting sure can come in handy — especially once the partners begin to feel invested.
When a couple is getting serious, they might notice that they feel selfless, and like they want to put their partner first.
A couple might discuss taking things slow, casually dating for awhile, getting to know each other, etc.
— and they'll be perfectly happy to articulate that.
If it is going to work out, however, that spark won't be as quick to fade.
It may not burn as brightly as it did during the honeymoon phase of the relationship, but the couple will still be happy to be near each other, and will feel excited about building a future.
When a relationship is going to stick, however, it's far more likely that both partners have talked about the future, agreed "on the pace of the relationship and [are] committed to it," Susan Trombetti, of Exclusive Matchmaking, tells Bustle.
"Maybe one of you had a serious break up before and just wants to take it slow." But either way, "you both care and are serious about each other."Sometimes, relationships move slowly for very obvious reasons.
the summer season)." They might also talk about where they see themselves in five years; all things that just bubble out naturally because they're so excited to be with each other.
Even without an official talk about the future, conversations like these can be a major indicator that the couple is way more than surface-level. O'Reilly says, "Research suggests that your friends affect how long your relationship lasts — they may be able to weigh in on compatibility and one study found that their disapproval of a partner is positively correlated with the likelihood of your breaking up."In other words, we care about what our friends and family think about our partners.
"Some people move slowly because they want to take more time to get to know a new partner and that can work in their favor," Dr.