I think people on the Christian sites are not serious in their search for a marriage partner, they seem to be more interested in using the site to widen their group of friends and acquaintances.
I no longer use the site but look at the discussion boards.
I tried several sites and saw the same profiles on each site.
Like any tool or service, people find a variety of ways to use a dating service.
Some expressed concern people were there to form relationships, others rejoicing in the intentionality to do so.
I find it more natural to meet at an event or short holiday – I would want to see how a man interacts with others of both sexes there!
' Some people commented on the difference between a dating site that is Christian and one that is not.
Some commented that they experienced they became 'judgemental' in selecting or not selecting people with whom they might begin an online conversation. Plus the potential for disappointment when eloquent writers fail to match that with conversation.' Most of the specific comments covered the desire to meet more face to face, in events, Christian holidays and so on.
They expressed that it was more natural to meet in person, or for eyes to meet across a room.
There are more women than men on these sites so it was strange to see this.
Having met some of the men in person it is no surprise that they are still single.
'Seems to be the real dilemma between getting teaching in churches that suggests God has a plan for your life (including a possible partner) and then we need to wait on Him versus dating websites where you need to try and 'sell' yourself to potential candidates.
Takes a lot of energy and courage.''I have personally been selective about who I have told, because some Christians I know disapprove and think that if it's God's will, it should happen without us being pro-active like that, especially as a woman…
Experience of using a dating site depends on what the intention was and whether it had been met.