It’s all fine and dandy for the first few weeks when you’re still basking in your astonishingly good pulling skills, but then you actually start to get to know each other…and you realise how different you are.One guy turned out to be borderline homophobic and we had countless ‘debates’ where he’d say something that was definitely not OK and I’d pull him up on it – leading to full blown rows.He also had odd views on women’s roles…like the fact that he believed marital rape didn’t exist.
Telling your mate about how many times you’ve cheated on your partner or generally been a dick is way easier than telling a boyfriend/girlfriend. They don’t care if you’ve been a complete t*** because they like you as you are – and usually, your awful stories make for excellent banter. Breakup-wise, if you’re genuinely good friends, then there’s no real reason why the end should be horrendous. Have casual dalliances with people you meet on the tube and in pubs.
When you find that kind of stuff out as someone’s romantic partner however, your guard immediately goes up. But as a friend-cum-girlfriend/boyfriend, your eyes are wide open. I’ve never had an acrimonious split from a friend-turned-boyfriend because things have generally just run their course.
My friend Lindsey took a small road trip with her guy friend so that they could attend a friend's party in another city.
You want to maintain your identity and style, but try tapping into your feminine side.
But hey, it won't be embarrassingly obvious if you start smiling and laughing more. I'm not saying act fake, but if this guy makes you giddy, the giggling should happen naturally anyway.7. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right next to them.
If he asks you about these guys, he might be wondering about the competition. Who bats their lashes while playing a competitive game of pool?
If you break up with someone in your office, you’ll never be able to use the same water machine again.
If you break up with someone in your friendship group, you’ll start a civil war between mates.
Is it really OK to want to change anyone to mould them into a better partner? When you date guys you’re already mates with, however, you start from an advantage point. You know if their religious/political/moral views are the same as yours – and you know how to deal with them if they’re not.
You know what sort of place you’d both enjoy going for dinner.
You have an easier time when it comes to meeting each other’s mates and families because it’s almost less of a big deal and chances are, you have more in common with their friends – because you too are their friend first and foremost.